What do you say to someone you love, who is hundreds of miles away, and is stricken by cancer?
Have I failed as a daughter?
Life gets busy, people forget to do things that they should do. It’s easy to get caught up in life and forget about important (but maybe distant) things.
I called my mother last night. It’s the first time I’ve called her since they both started chemo. And she sounded horrible. I mean, really bad. She said she has some virus and she was waiting to get a prescription for it. Something about high white cell count. My dad I guess was the opposite with a low white cell count. And the chemo had caused him to get canker sores all over his mouth and throat, so he was also pretty miserable.
I wish I was closer to her – the 2 hours that seperate us make it hard for me to be there for her. I mean, I could call more, but I don’t feel like that is enough. My sisters and I all hate that she and my dad are up there, battling cancer together(alone) with the help of their other (old and probably not the healthiest) friends. But what are we to do?
I have no idea how serious this all is… I guess I should find that out before time starts ticking away and i don’t have anymore time to spend with them. 
3 Responses to “what do you say?”
Very tough. Advise them to eat healthy. Lots of rest. And Omega fatty acid pills.
That’s so hard. My parents are relatively close but I don’t take as much care of them as I should (they’re not especially sick just, you know, aging) but i can’t imagine what I would do if they were really sick and I couldn’t be there. Pray for them I guess, pray hard.
Good luck, to them and you.
Weird, I just looked at your blog because of the stupid chocolate egg story. My dad’s been dealing with cancer as well…he is 4,000 miles away, so I’m having a little déja vu reading your post. He was diagnosed January 2004 and they gave him six months to 2 years, which was optimistic at the time…he’s still here. You never know.