some recent events, including a trip to my therapist, have made me aware of the fact that I am, indeed, a control freak. This characteristic has been the cause of many issues in my life – in my marriage, my work, etc. So now I begin the period of my life where I try to figure out how to control it. It’s not very fun to think about how this one thing about me has possibly been the cause of many problems.
My therapist has advised me to keep a journal and write down things that make me angry presently or things that made me angry in the past. She thinks that by doing so, I’ll be able to get to the ‘hurt’ and potentially learn to accept it and or heal it…
any advice for being less of a control freak?
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I saw your post in the tag surfer. I think it’s interesting that you wrote “So now I begin the period of my life where I try to figure out how to control it.” — or were you being ironic?
If you have any opportunity to do DBT, you might find it helpful with dealing with control and fear. I find fear is more significant in my control issues than anger is.
ha ha – wow, that tells you just how much of a control freak I am, I didn’t even realize I said that! I guess, I mean I need to figure out how to stop being one, how to let go of the control…
what is DBT?
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. It covers skills in four areas — mindfulness, affect management, interpersonal effectiveness, and distress tolerance. Sounds a little hokey but I found it made a lot of sense and continues to be helpful to me.
I’d say “let it go” but you’d probably think I was being serious and I wouldn’t be so I’m going to keep my mouth shut.