A letter to a few people in my life:

I love you and wish nothing but the best for you. However, I need to cut you from my lie. I have my own life and issues to face and no longer wish to hear about your petty shit. The world does not revolve around you.

I realize that you will never change and never see the fault in your ways, and while I really want to help you, I have finally accepted that you are beyond help. The only person I can fix is me. So that is who I choose to help.

I’m not perfect.  Not in the least.  But I’m real. I may have my insecurities, but at the same time, I know who I am.  If you don’t want my opinion, then keep your bitching to yourself.  I’m not going to keep helping you and giving you advice if you’re going to second guess me every second.  Whats the point? You’re wasting my time and stressing me out because you can’t think for yourself.  This is who I am.  If you don’t like it, then that’s your problem.

whew.  i feel much better, thanks internet.

I’m a mother of two.  I guess I’m young too (not yet 30) but I’m mature for my years and experience.  I’m the youngest of 5 girls, and prior to having my daughter 4 years ago, I already had 12 nieces and nephews.  On top of that, my mother ran a day care out of her home for the first 20 years of my life.  I was no stranger to children. 

When my daughter was born, we were pretty relaxed with the way we raised her. 

• Pacifier on the ground gets picked up and cleaned by placing into the mouth of one of her parents (yuck, right? oh well, she’ll live…) 
• We never freaked out about anything. 
• We weren’t extra quiet when she slept.  We had people over with the frame of mind that she needed to get used to loud noises.
• We didn’t do anything crazy to prevent germs. 
• You’d never catch me with one of those grocery cart seats for babies.

As a result, we had a pretty easy time with her as a baby.  She was healthy, never EVER sick.  I thought, “you know what? we are good parents!”

We have friends who aren’t as relaxed.  Whose kids have ear infections all the time, fevers every month, who have bad manners, who don’t sleep in their own beds EVER. 

Anyway, I guess I’m going on a tangent trying to defend us… back to the point…

Almost every weekend, as we struggle to find something kid friendly to do or find a babysitter, I tell myself “We need to find another couple with kids that has the same take on child rearing and or same morals as we do.”  Why is that so hard to do?  How does one POSSIBLY find another family like that? Do they have a Match.com for that kind of thing?  Heres what my add could suggest:

Young family of four seeking another young family for friendship.  Mom and Dad should like to have fun but still keep their childrens best interests at hand.  Should be flexible and open to playdates at either house and or bonfires (cheap entertainment) as well as possibility of vacationing together. Overprotective or anal parents need not respond, as we are looking for an experienced and relaxed couple.

Has anyone had success meeting other families?  My sister said that she met some once her daughter started school.  Is it crazy of me to look for something like this?